Sex is great. We don’t talk about it enough. Everyone has some relationship with sex, regardless of how—but it’s still so often repressed. Spaces to talk about sex, from…
Why asexual representation matters
From season 2 of Netflix’s Sex Education, “Sex doesn’t make us whole. And so, how could you ever be broken?” This line is perhaps the best asexuality validation yet from…
What the fuck is a v-card anyway?
Growing up, I was always taught that one day a guy would come along and sweep me off my feet. We’d fall in love, he would take my virginity and…
Sex club check
Portland has a lot of sex clubs. There are swingers clubs, there are bathhouses, there are dungeons, and none of them, as they regularly function, are conducive to a COVID-safe…
The wackiest breakups in Seinfeld
Believe it or not, not all relationships survive Valentine’s Day. Sometimes, the pressure of the supposed most romantic day of the year is too great. Sometimes, it’s just not a…
Top spots to take your pup on Valentine’s Day!
The Tilikum Crossing bridge is a beautiful place to take your dog out to explore the Willamette view and see both Southeast Portland and the Southwest Waterfront at the same…
The best couples video games for a Valentine’s Day date
As Valentine’s Day approaches, many couples are planning the perfect romantic date night with their significant other. Whether it’s a candlelight dinner in-person or a little bit of Netflix and…
Labels change, but feelings persist
a·ro·man·ti·cism /āˈ/rōˈman(t)əˌsizəm/ An orientation in which someone does not experience romantic attraction. them.us Aromanticism as a label is relatively new in its existence—and it was born purely out…
Up here, down there: exploring trans sex
Trans sex is a topic that many seem to avoid in conversation because it includes talking about not only sex and how to have it, but also the many variables…
Jorielle Livingston
I chose to talk and do a photoshoot with my friend Jorielle Livingston because I, a cis man, have so much to learn from her about being transgender. It was…
A materialist history of Valentine’s Day
As Valentine’s Day approaches yet again, the familiar accoutrements appear as well: fancy chocolates in fancy heart-shaped boxes, valentine cards bought from either a boutique stationery store or a supermarket…